That relationship produced a daughter who was 3 at the time that the divorce took place.
I got remarried 2 1/2 years ago and we now have a son who just turned 11 months old this week.
If you meet a guy you like and he has kids, here are some things to consider:1. Bad behavior often reflects ineffective parenting and other problems, and these problems will have a destructive effect on your relationship.3. There’s a difference between a divorced dad who has full custody because mom has serious issues and a divorced dad who only has his child during the summer. Hopefully, the single dad’s ex will be a reasonably nice person and he will have a good relationship with her.
The number of kids he has will affect your relationship BIG TIME. If the ex is difficult, this will cause problems down the road.
It can blur your vision when trying to figure out if you want to hang with this person for the long run. I’m Looking for 100% Pure Connection Half my life is behind me. I could see myself eyeing their bodies and trying to imagine the sex, but I stopped myself, pretty quickly, even with the fantasizing. Today, I’m even getting pretty stingy with first dates. I want my next relationship to start out with the potential going the long distance. At our age kids are either a choice you made or one you didn’t. Brutally Honest If it’s not a fit on the first date I’m going to try to let you know as gently and as quickly that it wasn’t a fit. And, in fact, feelings can be scary for both men and women.
Not long ago, I had a household of 2 - just my daughter and me.This is going to be different from any other relationship you’ve had in the past. Keep in mind that this guy can’t be carefree – he has to provide for his children and be available whenever they need him.However, you can rest assured that a man who has taken the responsibility of caring for his child/children has good qualities like commitment, responsibility, and love for his kids.Keep the relationship between the two of you, and when marriage becomes a consideration, have him introduce you to the kids.Think of it from a child’s perspective: Dad has a new girlfriend for a few months and then she goes away.You may not be able to spend as much time with him as you would someone without kids – unless you decide to accompany him to his kids’ school and sporting events.I would strongly advise not to get involved with the children unless you and this guy are serious.Our experience gives us some distinct advantages in terms of recognising what we don’t want.And perhaps our unfinished wounding might keep us from starting the dating process again. The Spark Is Only a Start If the chemistry (tail wag) is ON, there are still a ton of steps along the path before we’re in a relationship. (If I’m a reader and you’re a reality tv junkie, we might not go the distance.) We need to synchronize our schedules over time. If we do decide to sleep together I want to know that we’ve just become mutually exclusive.[Feb 2016 Update: Dating a Divorced Dad – Version 2.0 Updated] Let’s Hook Up, Wait. We’ve both got some history under our belt, kids, and some requirements for what’s OK and what we simply won’t ever do again.(Red Flags, we like to call them.) As we navigate “dating” again, we quickly realise the rules are very different.