"So, I feel like it's a side of him or a part of him that he lived but probably didn't want everybody to know about." As rumors circulated that Mateen had been hiding a double life, his father Seddique Mateen insisted Monday his son was not gay. Speaking to WFTV9 in Orlando, the classmate, who asked not to be named, said he was gay in 2006 but had not yet come out about his sexuality. Go Fund Me for victims of Orlando shooting raises more than M “We went to a few gay bars with him, and I was not out at the time, so I declined his offer,” the former classmate said.“He just wanted to fit in and no one liked him,” he said.(Just imagine getting married to an undercover gay man who chooses to come clean after your second child is born! If you notice a lot of male friends you never heard of on his Facebook list, it’s a big chance your boyfriend might be gay.) So before you jump into the wagon with your eyes closed, here are a few signs to be on the look for: That is, male strangers. Sure, pink is the new black, or it used to be, and he’s still not over it.I am careful to say "life" and not "lifestyle" so not to offend any gay and lesbian reading this who may be quick to cast me as a homophobe or hate-monger.The truth is no one simply chooses to have same-sex attractions (SSA).It's best not to get involved at all until he does leave her and moves on, or at least decides what to do.Otherwise, you might end up waiting and waiting, with nothing ever changing.
MY FRIENDS ARE TELLING ME I SHOULD DUMP THE GUY BUT I REALLY LIKE HIM. I don't recommend dating or moving forward in a relationship with a heterosexually married gay man (HMGM) unless he has an open, totally above-board agreement with his wife.Correction Appended"You Can Check-Out Anytime You Like, But You Can Never Leave." So says the Eagles' song Hotel California.Ironically, this memorable phrase in that 1976 classic hit has lasting implications for all those wishing to leave the gay life.Posted by Naomi Epps in Black Love Advice How do you feel about Denzel Washington or Will Smith? I know you love to see them together; it’s just that you’re almost always left with a bit of a sour taste in your mouth at the end of each magazine-reading session, right?Ahh, the thrills you feel when you see them and the secret crush you have had on them since you can remember…You have to admit it, girl. It’s only normal to be longing for someone as funny, smart, sexy and charming as these two talented men.They also forget they are hurting the women they date, as they tend to forget there is no store where a woman can go and buy back the lost time she spent with him.Some of them are willing to come clean at some point in their lives, but by then, it will likely be too late for remorse and regrets." This is what I believe to be the foundation for the development of SSA – a sensitive nature.Factor that with a few other variables − usually detachment from the same-gender parent and peers, an over-attachment to the opposite-gender parent and peers, and early sexual initiation and/or sexual abuse – and there is a good chance a person will experience SSA. The homophobic maniac who murdered 49 people inside Orlando’s gay-friendly nightclub Pulse Sunday morning had been hanging out there for three years — and chatted with men via online dating services like Grindr, said multiple witnesses who claimed to have firsthand knowledge of Mateen’s habits.Mateen’s family said his bloody rampage was sparked by anti-gay hatred.