You stop enjoying the relationship for what it is and start craving validation and confirmation that it’s “the real deal.” And there’s only one thing that manifests from that place… QUIZ: Are You Accidentally Destroying Your Love Life?
These days, people are quick to throw the concept of neediness around without actually looking at what it is.
Apparently, an angel had formed in the clouds and had spoken to her.I feel a little cheated, I didn't sign up for this.To be clear, I have no problem with weed in itself, if I could legalize the stuff this second I would.She then told me, at length, about the “new” ideas she was having concerning marijuana and spirituality.She said she’d realized that the way to communicate with the Holy Trinity was through getting stoned, and then outlined a complicated method of accessing God through prayerful toking.The funny thing was, she was acting like she was privy to these amazing ideas no one had ever had before, and was getting all excited about sharing her religious message with a spiritually deprived world. It’s called Rastafarianism.” The last girl I was in love with was a pothead. I once dated someone who would smoke a couple nights a week.We both got really high and went to the opera for my birthday, which seemed like a great idea — until it wasn’t. It’s snowing onstage and you don’t know why everyone is singing in tongues, and all these fancily dressed people are glaring at you. When she smoked, she’d either be next to normal or high out of her head.I’ve had some of my female readers complain that the term neediness makes it sound like I’m framing women as weak, fragile, insecure creatures that just cling to men (and stress them out). I think women bring a tremendous strength and power to the table in relationships…when they have access to it and are free of their own fears. Those fears are greater now more than ever really since there’s an entire industry devoted to making sure men and women are wrought with insecurities so they buy products (sowing in and agitating tiny insecurities is the bread and butter of the marketing world).I feel hurt because it appears that just spending time with me is not enough for him, he is not truly content without smoking. He told me the other day I need to give up wanting and wishing for a husband that doesn't smoke, because he always will and I need to accept it. I used to fight it, we would argue, it got really ugly.The pros and cons of dating a pothead who likes weed as much as Willie Nelson seems to.