Everyone I know either has Tinder on their phone, has it installed and doesn’t want to admit it, or is a nun. Are you able to ignite a little more than curiosity in your matches or are you the type of guy that gets featured on one of those “embarrassing Tinder stories” articles?
Heck, even I have it, and I hate the concept of online dating. Well, if you’re hanging your head in shame right now, don’t worry.
Normally, on Hinge you're free to use whatever opening line you want — it shows you mutual friends and interests then gives you a blank canvas to write whatever you want.
But for one month, Hinge gave a random 22% of users the option to use a clever prewritten opening line in addition to writing their own messages. They then tracked which of those prewritten lines were most likely to get a reply, using the data to determine which lines worked best based on gender, location, and how fast you sent a message after getting a match.
”You can write messages like these for any common interest or scenario you find in profiles, like traveling or photos taken with a cute pet, for example. If you do too much of it, you could get into trouble.
The more frequently you find it in the profiles you browse, the more you’ll be able to use your carefully-crafted message. You connect with her on an interest of hers (ideally one that you have in common), and then you ask a question geared toward the topic at hand (skiing, hiking, reading, etc.). So what we recommend doing is just changing one word in each message.
All of these worked better than the standard "hey" or "hey, what's up" that is the baseline greeting most people use. Would you rather have weekly hiccups or never sneeze to completion ever again? What's the most awkward movie you've watched with your parents?
Breakfast preference: pancakes, waffles, or sleeping til lunch?
So here’s the thing; some women might tell you that a simple “Hi, how are you doing? But in all honesty, unless you follow a generic message like this up with something mighty funny or mighty interesting the chances of you getting anything more than a couple of polite responses are slimmer than one of those Victoria Secret models. One of my favorite ways to open on Tinder is with something funny.
Hinge came up with over 100 prewritten lines that ranged in tone from quirky ("best discovery: Netflix or avocado?
(this one improved your response likelihood by 31%)2.
But in order to further set you up for romantic success, Hinge conducted a study of the most successful pick-up lines. For instance:"Do you string your string cheese or bite it?
" It's clever, it doesn't take much effort on the part of the person answering, and, best of all, it tells you everything you need to know about them. They are careful and pay attention to detail, but are never in a rush, happy to relish the present, knowing that though each moment feels infinite, life is short.