I’m noticing there are more hearing people dating deaf people largely because they are learning ASL and think we’re cool people.
You need to know ASL (duh) and be darned good at it or have a passion for it. ” anymore and able to talk with our Deaf friends at ease without looking at us for help. If you don’t know what’s that sign or what we’re talking about, ask.
I’ve met Deaf people who swear they’d never go out with a hearing person (which seems a tad discriminatory – we wouldn’t like it if a hearing person said they’d never date a Deafie, would we?
So we asked: Does being deaf/HH predispose a relationship to greater hardships than if we were hearing? It’s irrelevant like we don’t feel bad that you can hear. You are not an interpreter but there will be times you will need to interpret. We don’t mind hanging out with your speaking-only friends but not all the time and you don’t have to hang out with us all the time. Example: if you want to go to a movie theater with your friends and it doesn’t have subtitles or captions, don’t feel bad. It was fun at first, writing a profile, and then looking for matches. Then we started talking about meeting up – this whole internet dating malarkey is paying off! Whether this is connected or not, I don’t know, but of the women who I was in conversation with, not one of them agreed to meet me after I revealed I was deaf. The number of views stayed the same, but the number of people contacting me tailed off quite significantly. I sent a few emails to them saying ‘hey, your profile looks great, reply if you like mine’ or some other cheesy line. I arrange our first date, just a drink in a local pub. Understandably, she was nervous about meeting me – or so I thought! It couldn’t have been my face, she saw my profile picture. The next day, I sent her an email asking what I had done wrong. However, I still get an email every couple of weeks off a woman, and I have had a couple of very pleasant dates. I am a profoundly deaf oralist and have been since birth.I have been in various relationships with hearing people, but never a deaf person. You don’t find yourself saying “what’s that sign or what did s/he just say? If it becomes annoying, you should have second thoughts about dating one. If you happen to know or meet a hearing friend who knows ASL, talk in ASL. As ads for Princess Cut diamond rings, steak dinners, and Godiva truffles bombard our consciousness, we are reminded of our love lives - or lack thereof.Chances are you have fallen head over heels when a pheromone-tipped Cupid arrow struck.