As adults, some of us continue to struggle with knowing what is important in a significant other. Like so many young adults, I chased the experience of dating, grew addicted to the highs and lows of dysfunctional relationships, and suffered through bringing these bad habits into my marriage.The fact that I am now married to a beautiful follower of Jesus is only because of God’s tremendous grace (and only after we suffered through difficult years of rebuilding trust and love).Unlike western approaches to improving your sex life, Tantra teachings do not focus on external evaluations of what our body looks like, what kind of car we drive, how we wear our hair.There was speed dating, then there was and then My Single Friend.com, but nowadays online dating is a world of psychedelic, unexplored territory – whether it be romance geared to tattoo-obsessives or sandal-wearing hippie naturists. Board of directors for the pet-lovers’ love-in includes a moggy called Blue, a golden labrador called Buddy and the treasurer Munschie, a Persian kitty.
Indian 41 responded: ‘How about meeting in a pub or a public space sometime then? Maybe, but Beautifulpeople.com’s members are promised ‘glamorous parties, a jet-set global network’ and ‘potential contracts from top modelling agencies’.
While traditional Tantric teachings refer to concepts such as "universal energy" and "higher power" the teachings are, in many cases, not about stubbornly sticking to one set of beliefs or rules.
If you are interested in the idea that sexual expression can bring you closer to a higher power, you will find much in Tantra that speaks to you.
I see clear patterns of what works, and what ends terribly.
I see how awful compromises of morals and logic are made when strong feelings get in the way.